Mommy Wars

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Ok. I am not even a mom yet. But I’m catching wind of some of these very heated arguments between moms and moms to be. Breastfeeding vs. Formula. Circumcise vs. not. Vaccinate vs. non vaccination. etc etc

I have two reasons this concerns me.

One, my views have changed a lot. I used to trust my doctor. I used to think they knew everything and run to them when things went wrong. I don’t do that anymore. It’s been almost a year since I had a severe adverse reaction to an antibiotic. I have very very STRONG views on medications and vaccines, and things that just don’t belong in a body. It’s not just my opinion,  it’s what I’ve seen happen. I have allergies to several different things. I had severe reactions and allergies to several antibiotics. My brother had seizures from his childhood vaccines. To be fair, it seems that my genes lean towards being sensitive to these things. I plan on delaying vaccination in my kids. Not long, but long enough that if they do have a reaction it’s not going to be in a tiny 2 month old body. This is my choice. For many reasons.

Two, because of these views am I going to be shunned by other moms? I truly want was is best for my child and given my history, perhaps shielding them from harm is the best way I can do that.

Why can’t we all get along?

I am part of a online pregnancy message board. These conversations come up. Sometimes very young girls come onto the boards to ask about abortion and people bring their “pro life” views into things, and try to push their religion onto people.

News flash! Don’t just assume that everyone follows your religion….

Hey, I may be hormonal but I can see that competing with each other is not the way to be.

I do what I know is right for me, and you do what is right for you.

I respect that.

Don’t judge and push your views on me.

Peace 🙂

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5 thoughts on “Mommy Wars

  1. Trust your own instincts always.. and set boundaries with people who think they know more.
    I don’t trust the medical profession either – I learnt like you.. they are only useful if you break your leg or in an emergency situation.

    I haven’t taken an antibiotic in 20 years and my two youngest children who are now 12 and 17 I never had vaccinated.

    You have a natural inbuilt wisdom.. be guided by it.
    Mothers are highly intuitive .. because they need to be in-tune with their babies needs – you will know what to do ❤

  2. I have had the same concerns. I have mostly gotten defensive after someone pushed their views on me. I think if less mommas pushed their beliefs and views on other mommas there would be more understanding as these subjects are indeed very personal. Motherhood is personal!

      1. It’s a learning curve. I wish I had known what I know now back then, three babies ago. I would have been so much nicer (maybe but I was a total hormonal wreck my first pregnancy!). Just do your best.

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